Self. Care
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Maybe Softness Runs in Families
Some things quietly run in families without anyone ever officially passing them down. Not recipes.Not heirlooms.Not old photographs. But softness. The way we care for animals.The way we notice tiny paws and quiet companionship.The way certain pets leave permanent little paw prints on our hearts long after they’re gone. Lately, I’ve been thinking about my gram. She was a huge cat lady — the real kind. Not in the cliché way people joke about online, but in the sweetest, softest way. The kind of person who treated her cats like family because to her, they truly were family. One of them was a tuxedo cat named Fifi, and somehow that…
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I’m 30, and I’m Finally Learning That Saying No Doesn’t Make Me Selfish 💜
Growing up meant learning to make everyone happy. Healing is teaching me that my happiness matters, too. Can I admit something? I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of my life worrying about disappointing people. Saying yes when I really wanted to say no. Taking on extra responsibilities when I was already exhausted. And feeling guilty whenever I put my own needs first. Because somewhere along the way, I started believing that being a good person meant always being available. Apparently, my younger self thought having boundaries was against the rules. 🙃 We Were Taught to Push Through Everything Growing up as a millennial, I feel like there was always this expectation to…
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My Mind Isn’t Always a Quiet Place, So I Turn My Feelings Into Art 💜
Living with anxiety, depression, and schizophrenia—and finding a little peace through creativity. Sometimes I wish I could turn my brain off. Not forever. Just long enough to enjoy a little peace and quiet. Because honestly? Living inside my head can be exhausting. There’s the anxiety that makes me overthink absolutely everything. The depression that sometimes makes even the things I love feel difficult to enjoy. And schizophrenia, which can add an entirely different kind of confusion and noise to my thoughts. It’s a lot. Some days, my mind feels like 50 browser tabs are open, half of them are frozen, and I have absolutely no idea where the music is…